You know those times where there are so many thoughts floating around in your head that they threaten to burst forth? I have that a lot! Lately there has been a common theme of internal conversations as well as conversation that I have been having with other woman that have been consuming my heart and mind.
What would happen if we stopped comparing? Yes. I realize that is a loaded question and I by no means have answers nor do I plan on enlightening you in profound ways… simply share my heart and mind.
So what would happen if we as woman would put away all the comparisons and expectations of what we feel life should be and simply embrace what we have?
I know personally the root of a lot of my personal strife comes from comparison. I know that is one way that Satan steals my joy of what I have, because I am looking at what everyone around me has and I seem to be so insignificant. I foolishly see Facebook posts and read blogs and assume that everyone else has their lives together and that everything is sunshine and roses. Why do I allow those lies to take root in my heart? It is my naive nature to believe that others have it together and that I am sorely lacking in the “whatever” area.
In my desire to be the best and do everything perfect I have let the social media and outsiders dictate. I have relinquished my morals and ideas to those of Facebook, Pinterest and blogs, I have walked away from what I want in pursuit of what other say is right.
Why? Why have I done that? Why do I give so much power to what “they” say? I know that I have been created by a God that does not make mistakes, even when things look dim, He is still in control. When my thoughts wander He never does. My God created me to be the wife to my husband and the mother to my children, He made me to be the homemaker of this home.
God does not care about what we wear, what we eat, how my house is decorated, how clean or not my house is… He cares about the heart, how I love my husband, how I love my children and how I show His love in my home. I know all these statements in my heart and my mind however so often they get pushed to the side as I look through Facebook posts, Pinterest boards and blogs. So maybe the root of all the comparisons come from an over indulgent generation that suffers from the social anxiety disorder of FOMO (fear of missing out). Social media has been stealing the joys of the simple everyday living by the need to one up each other.
Maybe the bottom line is that I am coming to a time where I need to unplug. I think that there is wisdom in setting aside the social media and stepping back long enough to see the beauty in the simplicity of the Kulow family.
We are not fancy people; we are simple people. I am a simple woman. I love sitting around in my jammies. I love sipping tea. I like making things for my family. My husband is a simple man. He loves his family. He is proud to be a dad. He works hard in a job that he does not always love but it pays the bills. I have three little boys, they are all boys and they are brothers… they fight, the argue, they love each other and love us as parents. Our home is a simple one. We do not have the latest and greatest. Our home is a reflection of our family – simple and cozy. Maybe, just maybe all of that is just fine… no maybe all of that is just great!
Like I said, I was not going to wow you with my profound words and conclusions – just being a mom sharing my heart and hoping that maybe you understood me, maybe you are in the same boat as me, maybe you found console in knowing you are not alone in the evil wheel of comparison and where you belong. Because one thing I know for sure… You are right where God wants you for the moment.
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