Let me start this by saying that I am no expert, I actually have been a huge skeptic for a very long time on the whole subject of “Love and Logic”… I am now tucking my tail and conceding. I have come across many parents that claim to be “Love and Logic” parents and in my opinion they are not stellar parents that I would want to model my parenting after. These parents seem to take the “options” aspect of “Love and Logic” too far and have basically painted themselves into a corner per say in parenting.
When my friend said that she had booked one of the co-authors of “Love and Logic” to come and speak at MOPS I was feeling a little under-whelmed at the prospect. Mind you everyone on our MOPS Steering team seemed to be ecstatic and I was the opposite.
I went to MOPS with an open mind (after praying about my poor attitude). I will say that I was more than pleasantly surprised! The speaker was a down to earth man that shared from his years of counseling experience, his parenting past and his years of living. He was humorous and I found myself often nodding my head in agreement.
Some of the points that I took away from his talk that I know I will be implementing…
*The very best moms act more and talk less
* We do not want a child centered home, we want a home that our kids are mature enough to handle life and all that comes with it
* Do NOT show frustration – The hidden message that you send your child is “I am out of control” That then relinquishes control to the child.
*All pleading parents raise rebellious children
* Warnings encourage misbehavior up to a certain point
*The healthiest parents are the ones that act and do not move their mouths that much
*The butt is design excellence for spanks, God did design wisely
I will say that I was encouraged so much so that I bought his book… yes, you read that correctly, I bought a “self-help” type book as I look down the long tunnel of raising these three boys in a way that is loving and still firm.
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